Unban Appeal - Lil_Dave - GTA RP

[Lil_Dave]

Server: GTA RP
Character Name: Dave Smith
Steam ID: 76561198453759676
Ban ID (just the numbers): 18371
Ban Reason: C1.2
Why do you think you were banned: For using homophobic language.
Why should we unban you: I'm aware my last appeals didn’t have a lot of effort and i really just want to make it 100% clear this time that i’ve learnt my lesson since this ban.

since my last appeal I've actually gone ahead and educated myself, even spoke to people from the LGBTQ+ community and got a complete understanding of why the word is inappropriate and how much of a derogatory slur it is, i’m only human and i make mistakes but all i can do is educate myself to be better and not make the same mistake again… i was aware beforehand that it’s a word i shouldn’t of used and it definitely was a slip of a moment but i can honestly say after speaking to people of the community and knowing how the word can make them feel when they’re called it, is not a nice feeling, especially knowing i could of made someone feel that way by using the word myself and that’s not something i want to do nor inflict on anyone.

the moral of it is, i genuinely just want to apologise again to anyone in this community from the LGBTQ+ community and also to the person who reported it for using such a derogatory slur and not thinking about how it can effect a person from the community… i would hate for someone to think that i’ve used this word in a hateful manner when it really was just a slip of the moment which is very unlike me and i want to say it will never happen again, i feel like i’ve really educated myself on this situation and i have a few friends that are part of the community and i feel like i’ve also let them down by using this word.

i just think if i am allowed back in and i get myself into a hostile situation that may take an effect on my mood ooc that i will step away and calm down before going into the situation again and roleplay it out, or even just think before i speak basically… and realise how certain words are really not okay to use. i’ve realised that is something that i should of done back then instead of not thinking before i speak.

all i can do is educate myself, realise my mistake and have a good understanding of why it’s really not okay to use words like that which i feel like i have done since my last appeal, all i can do now is apologise and say that it won’t happen again.

thanks to whoever takes the time to read this appeal.
Please confirm that you have read the unban appeal process and rules: Yes

 

[Snuffles]

Hello @Lil_Dave

You claim it was a slip of the moment, but how can we be sure it's not going to happen again?

 

[Lil_Dave]

hi @Snuffles hope you’re well and thank you for the response.

it won’t happen again because i have truly learnt my lesson this time and gone out of my way to realise the effect this word can have on people and how it can make them feel, like i said i’ve let a few of my friends down from the community by even saying it and i regret it a lot. i shouldn’t of said it in the first place it was so wrong of me and not a normal word that’s in my vocabulary anyway and won’t be ever again. if i feel like i’m in a situation where i could get heated i really just need to use my brain and think before i speak and this time away has really taught me that and i believe in myself that it will not happen again… i’m not a homophobic person and i didn’t even say it in a sense of malice either but i shouldn’t of said it in the first place and i am disgusted with myself knowing how the word can effect someone.

i do just want to apologise again and i can honestly say it will never happen again and i can fully promise that, as i said i hate knowing that i could deeply affect someone by using that word and that’s not something i want to do in my time in roleplay.

all i can really do is apologise and say it won’t happen again and all i can do is hope that staff have that trust in me this time that i won’t say it again because i know in myself that it will never be spoken from me again. i just want to have fun in roleplay and not offend anyone which is why i really will think before i speak before i’m put in situations.

thank you for having the time to read my appeal and reply!

 

[Snuffles]

Quote me the rule you broke and explain it in your own words.
In addition to this, I also want you to explain why this rule is essential for any online community.

 

[Lil_Dave]

afternoon @Snuffles thank you for reading my response, i hope you’re well.

(C1.2) Discrimination
Do not express discriminatory or otherwise offensive views. This is no place for racism, religious hatred, ageism, sexism, homophobia, gender or disability discrimination.

this means you shouldn’t discriminate people no matter what or who they are and you shouldn’t use words or even act in ways that comes across discriminating towards a certain group or community out of respect more than anything.

i believe this rule is essential for any online community because an online community is considered a safe space for a lot of people, they may have been discriminated towards in their real life and their online life is to get away from that so when they come online and get that same discrimination from their real life, that means their online life may not be their safe space anymore. we come online with people everyday not knowing their real life or what discrimination they’ve been through by being in a certain group or gender or religion etc.
also because we’re all equal here, we’re all human and being a part of a group or religion etc shouldn’t be discriminated against, we should be judged as people and not by the colour of our skin, the religion we follow or what gender you want to be with… none of that should be discriminated against whatsoever.
last thing i wanna do is discriminate or make someones safe space not feel safe anymore, i’d hate knowing that i’ve done that to anyone so that’s why i’m completely sympathetic towards this situation and i really have taken my time to educate myself during this ban

 

[Danoo]

Hello @Lil_Dave , I hope all is well!

since my last appeal I've actually gone ahead and educated myself, even spoke to people from the LGBTQ+ community and got a complete understanding of why the word is inappropriate and how much of a derogatory slur it is

I cannot tell if you're being genuine in this appeal, or actually just telling us what you think we'd want to hear to get yourself unbanned?

 

[Lil_Dave]

Hi @Danoo I'm well hope you’re well thanks for the reply

it’s easy for it to come across that way and this appeal was more to let the community know that I've educated myself on the matter and that it won’t happen again, this is all genuine. I've not gone searching for people in order to educate myself, I've spoken to a few of my friends about the ban and they’ve told me how the word is derogatory and their experiences of emotions with that word and I've learnt that way.

I feel like my appeal has mainly been based on educating myself more than getting myself unbanned. If I get unbanned then I know in myself that I won’t make that same mistake again due to the knowledge I know now, if I don’t get unbanned then I'll still continue to have that knowledge and it all has been a learning curve for me to be honest and that’s something I wanted to express. I more or less wanted to get my point across that I'm apologetic towards the community for saying it really.

I would love to have that chance to prove myself to everyone that it won’t happen again and being hopeful that I'm trusted to not do it ever again and that’s all I can ask for.

 

[Danoo]

Hello @Lil_Dave

I've had a look into your record and come across 4 bans & 5 warnings which is excessive.

This is a community full of people who share a similar interest in gaming/roleplay and want to have a good time here, perhaps even escape from real life problems for a while.
There is absolutely no place for any disruptive behaviour here and the word you've used during this is exactly that.

For now, we're not ready to accept this appeal - I do believe some time away is still needed.

DECLINED